this wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it

Day 29: "Critters"
Rups & Bels

1. What is more difficult for you, looking into someone's eyes when you are telling them how you feel, or looking into someone's eyes when they are telling you how they feel? that would depend on the feeling more than the telling. If it's an ugly feeling or a hurtful one or one that's not reciprocated, then avoiding eye contact can be a blessing. If the feelings are all good, then it's a reinforcement of the good.
2. Think of the last time you were REALLY angry. WHY were you angry? Do you still feel the same way? last week, someone that I work with (though not directly) slandered me to her colleagues and boss, and to my boss. I was angry because her allegations were false and a deliberate attempt to shift the blame from herself for something that she--objectively--did wrong. I am still upset, although not so intensely, because I've not been given the opportunity to respond.
3. You are on a flight from Honolulu to Chicago non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them? I call D., because her phone is never, ever charged, and I know it would go to voicemail. I would leave a message for her, but with the instruction that it be shared with the appropriate others as well. She would know.
   And as for what I would tell them--seriously? Isn't that apparent?
4. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid? it depends. Is it slow and painful (relatively)? Or will it be quick and painless, so that I can use every remaining day? If it were the latter, I would probably tell no one, and apart from some minor modifications, change very little. I don't tend to keep too much to myself as it comes to feelings that ought to be shared.
5. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? - Love and Trust. I don't think that this is a reasonable question. Love without trust isn't love. Trust without love, in the ways that matter, isn't really trust. It becomes a silly game of semantics.
6. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dog's life? Why or why not? I minored in Philosophy in college, so we're just going to forget that you pretended to be all intellectual there and call this a Free Space, Mmm Kay? K.
   
   “I was always sweet, at first. Oh, it's so easy to be sweet to people before you love them.”
   [Dorothy Parker, from Collected Stories]
7. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most? You don't understand love and trust, do you? I'm sorry.
8. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you, more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say? "that is some terribly convoluted grammar"
9. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or why not? yes. Because I love him, and miss him every day, and want one more chance to spend an hour with him. What is a year compared to an hour I can never have back? Are you kidding?!
10. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend? sometimes.
11. Does love = sex? no. You have some major problems, either in the dictionary department or in the basic human interaction department. Sex is sometimes an expression of love. It's also sometimes an expression of hormones. It's also sometimes about a hundred other things. Love, on the other hand, is about twelve billion things. Less easily defined. "Sex" isn't one of those things, per se.
12. Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or why not? once again, having passed Philosophy 101 once already (and answered this question on about seventy memes to this point), Free Space!
    
    “I'd like to have money. And I'd like to be a good writer. These two can come together, and I hope they will, but if that's too adorable, I'd rather have money.”
    [Dorothy Parker]
13. When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person? I tell people HONESTLY how I feel all the time. Like, probably every single day. Life really is too short to wait.
14. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite sex, you love them or that you do not love them back? each of those things is difficult in its own time. Rejection is maybe harder, because the feelings are negative. Scraping up the courage to tell someone you love them for the first time (or at a difficult time) requires courage, too, but maybe not the same sort.
15. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose? my keys? my ability to taste? an arm? my sense of humor? Open-ended questions are all well and good, but this is too open.
16. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you? yesterday. They were, and are, my parents.
17. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why? I said goodbye to someone in the last month that I would rather not have let go
18. Imagine it is a dark night, you are alone, it is raining outside, you hear someone walking around outside your window. WHO do you wish was there with you? the person in the last answer. Or D&R, because between the two of them they'd kick ass, take names, and make the fool regret setting foot anywhere near me.
19. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or why not? oh my lord, I read that too quickly as "Would you give a homeless person a VCR if they were dying" and then nearly choked to death laughing...
20. You are holding onto your grandmother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision? OH MY GOD SHUT UP with the easy ass Philosophy questions what the HELL?! Free space!
    
    “It turns out that, at social gatherings, as a source of entertainment, conviviality, and good fun, I rank somewhere between a sprig of parsley and a single ice-skate.”
    [Dorothy Parker]
21. Are you old fashioned? in some ways, terribly so. In others, though, shockingly not.
22. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it? maybe never
23. Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why? if it's TRUE LOVE, then it's NOT "guaranteed" to result in a broken heart - gaaaaaaaaaah
    
    This meme hurts my soul.
24. If you could do anything or wish anything, what would it be? just good sleep. And early, easy resolution to all pending issues.

[random grab from here; the title quotation is by Dorothy Parker - naturally]