from 100 Self-Reflection Questions
87. Which aspects of your life are you able to control?
what I do, what I won't do, how much is too much to accept
88. Which goals did you accomplish recently?
selling my Tiffany necklace at 100% profit, buying and portioning meat for dinners, and cleaning the basement
89. Which goals didn’t you accomplish this week/month/year? Why do you think that was?
I haven't yet sold the plant stands, for reasons I cannot quite grasp. They are nice pieces of furniture, with a variety of purposes, and the prices on them are not unreasonable. Prehaps they just need a little time to find the right buyer.
90. Which have been your best moments in life so far?
My brother opening his jean jacket and pulling out 2 baby kittens. Driving by myself for the first time. Opening a box and finding emeralds inside. My last first kiss.
91. What past experience are you thankful for?
I'm glad to have been able to travel as much as I have, though by some standards it's not much at all. I was able to explore a few cities that otherwise would not have been in my grasp, often all on my own. I developed some anonymity and street-wisdom that has served me since.
92. Which past friendships do you miss the most? Why?
I miss Andrew James, and I miss talking with Fluffy on a regular basis. Andy was not taken in by distraction or superficial nonsense. Talking with him was straight-up. And Fluffy is a balm to my soul, and deeply funny, and in tune with my sensibilities.
93. Which qualities do you most admire in others that you wish you had yourself?
financial ambition, will-power, and calm
95. Which relationships are you neglecting?
most of what goes on at work goes on without me, now that I'm working from home. I talk with one of my office colleagues more often and have stayed in good contact with my "teammate"—she heads one of the main customer-facing departments—but by and large I'm out of touch with everyone else.
97. Which things felt important to you ten years ago that no longer matter to you now?
98. Which three things are important to you?
someone to count on, something to work toward, and time and space to myself
99. Who do you hope to become in the next 12 months?
smaller, richer, and headache-free
100. Who do you most enjoy spending time with? Why is that?
I like spending time alone. I am my own good company.
101. Who do you want to spend more time with? How will you make it happen?
my massage therapist - for which I will need to improve my disposable income once again
103. Who has had the biggest impact on your life to date?
in addition to some others: D II
105. Who looks up to you the most? Why do you think that is?
funny question. There are times when I would have easily answered it. At this point I am comfortable saying that there's no one who obviously "looks up to" me, and I'm totally fine with that. That is a responsibility that I'm not sure I could deal with right now.
107. Why did you marry your spouse?
we had been dating for a while. He had graduated from college a year before, and I was just then. We had both been raised in such sheltered backgrounds that we didn't quite realize that there was an alternative to getting married vs. breaking up: like, say, living together. I guess we realized that other people did it, but it didn't seem feasible for us. We thought we were intellectual revolutionaries, but we were conventional and cowardly (and we were, in our way, in love).
A few years later, we figured it all out. I still think he's brilliant and kind and dear. I just know he's not for me, nor I for him. Isn't that the best possible ending to the story?
[from here and adapted; the title quotation is by Betty Smith, from A Tree Grows in Brooklyn]
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