2.29.2012

to read a book for the first time is to make an acquaintance with a new friend; to read it for a second time is to meet an old one

January 29: acquisitive
Although some of my blog posts imply the contrary, I am not a terribly acquisitive person. "Stuff" makes good 'press', though, and those sorts of posts serve the dual purpose of answering the familiar "But what present can I get for you?!" questions without their having to be asked.
February 29: hegemony
I like to think that I've broken free of the constraints of my upbringing, but only on the very micro and very macro level am I anything other than the hegemony dictates.

  1. What is the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten?
    "Chinese casserole" via the mother of my former spouse. No food should be that pale, or bland.
  2. If you could bring one character to life from your favorite book, who would it be?
    Everett Chance, from The Brothers K (by David James Duncan), or Jonathan Bovaro, from The Girl She Used to Be (by David Cristofano).
  3. What dead person would you least want to be haunted by?
    anyone of whom I'm not fond in life, I suppose. Let's start with whomever created the Geico caveman advertising campaign.
  4. If you had to be trapped in a book for a month, which book would you choose? (you can also pick what character you would want to be as well)
    It's tempting to say The Rich Part of Life, and though I adore that book, there's too much there that's heartbreaking, too, to live it. It's an obvious choice: The Brothers K, to be Kincaid.
  5. If you had to be trapped in a TV show for a month, which show would you choose? (you can also pick what character you would want to be as well)
    the only recurring series I'm watching right now is The Big Bang Theory, and it's just not that kind of show for me. I would love to go back to be Jill on ReGenesis. Not only was it a good part, smart and feminine, brainy and physical, and real, but also playing off of the most drop-dead sexy actor ever, Peter Outerbridge. Loved the show, loved the characters, loved the guy.
[from The Cat--it rose from mysterious origins; the title quotation is a Chinese proverb]

2.28.2012

the word "good" has many meanings

January 27: nidus
(I can understand using some little-known words for this, but this is...odd.)
My office is a nidus of inside jokes and obscure information.

February 27: sycophant
Please, let no one ever think me a sycophant; may I always behave with greater dignity than that.

     We're in the midst of the 'anniversary' portion of our year, when things get a little clogged in my memory and it sometimes takes a bit for me to remember to live in the present and not the past. The 22nd is memorable as the day I did something wonderfully out of character, which paid dividends for years to come. The 24th is, four years ago, when I got my first two tattoos. The 25th is, good and bad, when the brave act of the 22nd unfolded in a big way. Also nearing my half-birthday, and the birthday of the guy whose wife accused me (wrongly, as it happens, and in a barely-keeping-it-together fashion) of having an affair with him a couple of years ago. (No, I haven't seen him since then.) (Nor had I seen him for ~15 years before that, for what that's worth.)
     That day is also Johnnie's birthday.
     And next week comes Nick's birthday (the 6th) and my former spouse's (the 7th). No, I don't have all this noted somewhere--it just lives in my head, and pops up when I see these dates at work (stupid street dates [The Cat knows what I'm talking about] and meetings) or make plans in advance with friends. I would love to be able to shut off whatever piece of my brain makes it possible to remember this sort of thing. If anyone can help me do that, I'd be thrilled.

January 28: extremophile
My b.f.f. seems to be turning into a human extremophile since she moved to Alaska. I don't get it--but I've never been there, so maybe it's just something that's got to be experienced.

February 28: eristic
I understand that 'eristic' can serve as either verb or noun; one of my coworkers has the noun definition of this word nailed.

[the title quotation is by G.K. Chesterton, and reads in its entirety: "The word 'good' has many meanings. For example, if a man were to shoot his grandmother at a range of five hundred yards, I should call him a good shot, but not necessarily a good man."]

2.26.2012

no one understands that you have given everything. You must give more.

January 26: sastruga
Here's a hint that I live on the edge of godforsaken nowhere: when it has snowed and is windy, I alter my route to and from work to avoid roads that become borderline impassable due to sastrugi.

February 26: jacquerie
As much as I welcome a jacquerie--for it truly would be the best option, under the circumstances--it appears that the transition will go off as planned.

     A relatively quiet weekend, overall, even given the burst of travel yesterday and the hours spent making changes to the blog template. I watched a DVD--The One, with Jet Li, which wasn't his best work but turned out to be more entertaining than originally feared--and finished a couple of books (Alan Shapiro's Night of the Republic: Poems; The Side of the Angels by Christina Bartolomeo; and Goodnight, Nobody by Jennifer Weiner), cleaned the kitchen and took a few naps. Two necessary tasks that I did not accomplish: picking up allergy medicine (I'm totally out again. How does this keep happening? Glargh!) and vacuuming the whole place. Looks like this will be a busy week for after-work tasks.

[the title quotation is by Antonio Porchia, trans. by W.S. Merwin]

2.25.2012

all changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy

    If you're reading this post through a feed of some sort, do me a favor and click through to the blog itself. I've made some template changes for the first time in a couple of years, and I'm curious for reactions from the faithful (and the unfaithful, and those just stopping by).

January 24: redound
It is impossible to know which of the actions that we make on behalf of others will redound in positive ways. The best we can do is the best we can do at the time, in hopes that it will be taken that way.

February 24: Rubicon
I was relieved to learn that my personal decision, which has an impact on my professional life, will not cross the Rubicon of any of the close friends whose opinions about such an issue would matter to me.
 
     As planned, The Mumbler and I spent the day in Suburbia. We started at American Science & Surplus, and had a good time but didn't spend a penny. I think the biggest hit was the giant hip flask, though we poked and prodded through the entire store.
     Next, we ate an extremely leisurely lunch at the Irish place. Our waiter (who could have been in a boy band or possibly modeling for J.Crew after his shift--he was more beautiful than the most beautiful woman I've seen in the past year, by 10%) was arrogant but skilled, and delivered our drinks and food effectively and without undue spillage. The more-brisk-than-expected (thanks to the probably 25° windchill) walk to Crate and Barrel did us no harm; the bar had been over-warm, and a little sobering up prior to the temptations of C&B is not a bad thing. Despite some surprisingly pushy customer service personnel, we enjoyed our time there very much as well. This was the (ostensible) object of our trip:
The Atwood frame and headboard
(In person, the headboard did not have that odd, two-toned appearance.) He was happy with the entire bedroom suite but not with the price, so we may continue our shopping for a while (at least until they have a sale). I, for what it's worth, LOVEDLOVEDLOVED this tall bookcase:
The Elevate bookcase
and this matching shorter piece:
The Elevate low bookcase
    St. Patrick's Day and Easter are coming, y'all!
     Instead, I bought a couple of things for my collections, and off we went, heading across town in the opposite direction. The 'burbia is...awkward, I guess, to drive, since where we wanted to go turned out to be in quite disparate areas. If we started at the compass point S, and Am Sci & Surplus is N, the Irish place and Crate & Barrel are sort of E, and World Market, our last destination, is, essentially, W. Sort of. It was a lot of driving, and a lot of traffic. Neither of which either of us is used to. So that was a trial. But we survived. Anyway....
     Am Sci & Surplus is for geeks, nerds, dorks, and scientists. Crate and Barrel is for yuppies and hipsters. World Market, on the other hand, is for all of them and the rest of us. Weird, wonderful, bizarre, a little scary, deadly when you're hungry or bored or desperately need a gift, there's literally something for everyone. M. bought some olives the size of my thumb and a jar of pesto, and I spent ~$50 on....
The spoils.

Several packages of scone mix (surprise! they're not from scratch); lemon cookies; a set of napkins, since mine have seen better days - and, oddly, all of mine are blue; a couple of sets of chopsticks (which, locally, are used for swizzle sticks), and two chopstick rests (black origami swan and a blue fan, which is actually an incense holder but who's going to know?). Also pictured are the shot glass and saki cup that I got from C&B

January 25: periphrasis
I would like to say that one of my coworkers suffers from periphrasis, but I'm afraid it is the others of us, those who listen to the endless stories packed with $20/lb. words, who truly must endure.

February 25: diapause
(Oh, God, I'm snorting with laughter as I type....)
My young male friend, experiencing a sort of romantic dry spell, compared himself (like a martyr) to a sort of relationship dromedary, suffering through a diapause that felt like crossing an emotional desert.

[the title quotation is by Anatole France, and reads in its entirety: "All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another."]

2.23.2012

weekends don't count unless you spend them doing something completely pointless

January 23: troglodyte
(Some of these are just too easy.)
The other morning, I was driving behind what I was certain would turn out to be a troglodyte in a minivan. I was, therefore, surprised - but not too - to discover that it was, instead, a coworker. Apparently that person cannot read lips in the rear-view mirror....
February 23: encomium
My most closely-held encomiums are not awards and official pronouncements, but kind words and sincere appreciation of those who really know what I do, and why.

    Sleepy. It's winter again, however temporarily. Half day tomorrow, followed by a massage and new hair. Time to start thinking of what to wear to my brother's wedding, and how to wear my hair (i.e. whether to grow it out), and what the hell to do about a date. I'm pretty much constrained to someone from the Midwest, because no one with any sense would travel to the home state in late July. If it's not 100 degrees, I'll be amazed.
     Weekend plans, too. Heading to the suburbs with the Mumbler to look at beds (frames) at Crate and Barrel, wander American Science & Surplus, check out furniture at World Market, have lunch (and then some) at the Irish place, and whatever else suits our mood[s]. I was going to drive, since I've spent much more time in the area than he has and it was my idea in the first place, but considering the weather, we're more likely to want his Jeep than my slippery compact car.
     And so, to bed.

[the title quotation is by Bill Watterson]

2.22.2012

your broccoli will tell you how to eat it

January 22: phlegmatic
Those in my chosen profession - as well as each of the professions that I chose not to participate in, now that I think about it, after I'd finished educating myself in preparation for them - are often erroneously assumed to be phlegmatic and dull. In my experience, members of each of those groups are often beyond fascinating.
February 22: shrive
One of my colleagues apologizes regularly for even the slightest inconvenience. I've tried to offer her a general shrive, absolving her of all possible culpability in the even that she's inadvertently made my work life more difficult, but it hasn't kicked in yet.

    Idealistic. Warm. Caring. Creative. Imaginative. Original. Artistic. Perceptive. Supportive. Empathetic. Cooperative. Compassionate. Responsive. Sensitive. Gentle. Tenderhearted. Devoted. Loyal. Virtuous. Self-critical. Perfectionistic. Self-sacrificing. Deep. Multifaceted. Daydreamer. Persistent. Determined. Hardworking. Improvising. Initiator of new projects and possibilities. Agent of change. Drawn to possibilities: "what could be" rather than "what is." Values oriented with a high level of personal integrity. Focus is on understanding the self, personal growth, and contributing to society in a meaningful way. Under the surface appearances: complex and driven to seek perfection and improvement, in the self, in relationships, in self-expression.
    If the career does not express idealism and drive for improvement, then boredom and restlessness sets in.
    Dislike conflict, dealing with trivialities, and engaging in meaningless social chatter. Thrive on acknowledgement and recognition so long as not attention-centered. Need a private work-space, autonomy, and a minimum of bureaucratic rules.
     That is what it means to be an INFP (Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, Perception), one of the sixteen personality types on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). (The other options are Extroversion, Sensing, Thinking, and Judgment.) Roughly 4-5% of the United States population is estimated to be INFP, which is often called the "healer" personality type.
     Each time that I've taken the test - and there have been several, whether for work or as a test subject while living in the Mitten - I've been an INFP, and I've always scored Strong or Very Strong in each category. It is unlikely that I will ever score dramatically differently; I will probably always be INFP.
     Among the career options that are suggested to be a good fit for INFPs:
  • artist
  • "attorney devoted to righting wrongs"     (as compared to the ordinary attorneys, who cause them?)
  • clergy in low-dogma faiths
  • coach (personal growth/effectiveness)
  • consultant (education, human resources)
  • counselor (relationship, spiritual, career)
  • editor
  • entrepreneur
  • healer (alternative disciplines)
  • librarian
  • physician (psychiatrist, family, holistic)
  • psychologist
  • researcher
  • social scientist
  • social worker     (excuse me while I laugh myself sick...)
  • songwriter/musician
  • teacher
  • therapist
  • writer, poet, or journalist
[the title quotation is by Anne Lamott, from Bird by Bird, and reads in its entirety: “There’s an old Mel Brooks routine, on the flip side of the ‘2,000-Year-Old Man,’ where the psychiatrist tells his patient, ‘Listen to your broccoli, and your broccoli will tell you how to eat it.’”]

2.21.2012

hells anticipated but foregone

January 21: douceur
"Love the One You're With" by Crosby, Stills & Nash is the ultimate douceur.
February 21: malleable
I used to joke that I preferred to date younger guys because they're more malleable; the truth is that, in general, they're just less cynical.


All bodies have their yearnings for true evil,
A pall of darkness blotting out the heart,
Nor can remorse cancel luckless events
That rotted our engagements with Heaven’s truth;
These are now history. Therefore once more
We swear perpetual love at love’s own altar
And reassign our bodies, in good faith,
To faith in their reanimated souls.

But on our death beds shall our flaming passions
Revert in memory to their infantile
Delight of mocking the stark laws of love?
Rather let death concede a warning record
Of hells anticipated but foregone.

[Robert Graves, ‘True Evil’, from Timeless Meeting]

2.20.2012

loneliness...is and always has been the central and inevitable experience of every man

January 20: spurious
February 20: plenary
I wonder if I will ever develop the ability to sense when someone's interest in me is spurious? I don't expect, and indeed would not want, plenary devotion, but constancy seems elusive now.

[the title quotation is by Thomas Wolfe]

2.19.2012

the trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt

January 19: Wellerism
[This one was completely new to me.]
A Wellerism is close to a pun on my internal hierarchy of verbal irritations.
February 19: stentorian
One of my family members is on the stentorian side, drawing far more attention in public places than the remainder of us put together.

    Postsecret blew my mind today.
     Since the site has gained (by leaps and bounds) in popularity, the "secrets" have seemed, more and more, to be mere showing off/attention seeking/artwork rather than what the whole project seemed to be trying to be, from the beginning. Lately, I've felt like it's less and less relevant to me - which is not such a bad thing, really, given the content of the average revelation. Today, however, it went a little wonky. Two of the "secrets" really, really pissed me off.
"I go out of my way to park annoyingly close to people who park poorly in hopes that they will have a hard time getting out... Oops! My bad for parking in the lines. :-/"
In other words:
an anonymous other person's presumed poor behavior/action/choice is TOTAL justification for my intentionally poor choice to behave poorly.
The person who parked badly, near whom you are "justified" in parking more badly. Is it at all possible that that person:
  • parked as best they could, compensating for others who were also parked poorly?
  • was in a legitimate hurry, perhaps because of illness/injury/work requirements?
  • was simply having a bad day?
Either of the vehicles in the above photo are worth $25,000+. "in hopes that they will have a hard time getting out." Does that mean, in hopes that they will scratch, scrape, and possibly rip the fuck out of your relatively expensive car, while trying to do no more than back out of a parking space? If so, congratulations, ignorant child. You deserve it.
"I keep a list of people I'd mace, given the opportunity."
     Those photographed are, clockwise from top, Ben Roethlisberger, George Huguely, and Chris Brown. What do these three men have in common?
  • Chris Brown: "In 2009, he pleaded guilty to felony assault of singer and then-girlfriend Rihanna. He was sentenced to five years probation and six months of community service." (See his Wikipedia page for more.)
  • George Huguely: A University of Virginia Lacrosse player charged with murdering his former girlfriend, after having abused her while they were in a relationship. (See the Wikipedia page about her murder and The Huffington Post article about the ongoing trial for more.)
  • Ben Roethlisberger: Pittsburgh Steelers quarterback. From the Wikipedia page about him-- "Off the field, Roethlisberger has been involved in high-profile incidents, including a nearly fatal motorcycle accident in 2006 and sexual assault allegations in Lake Tahoe in 2008 and in Milledgeville, Georgia, in 2010. Neither allegation resulted in charges being filed; however, the latter act resulted in Roethlisberger being suspended for six games (reduced to four) under the NFL's personal conduct policy for the start of the 2010 season."
  1. Pleaded guilty, was sentenced, and is serving sentence.
  2. Was formally charged and is at trial right now.
  3. Accused.
    You would MACE someone who was ACCUSED of a crime?
     Does anyone still understand this? I-N-N-O-C-E-N-T until proven guilty.
     Stupid bitch. May you and the charmer in postcard #1 be locked in an endless cycle of Macing and car-scratching throughout eternity. Y'all deserve each other.

[the title quotation is by Bertrand Russell]

2.18.2012

time is the school in which we learn / time is the fire in which we burn

January 18: deke
Try as I might, I could never deke my brother when he was bound and determined to smack me in the face.

February 18: frowsy
Frowsy was, indeed, the order of the day yesterday, at least amongst the subset of the public that spends its time at my place of work. Intriguing behavior included a colorful homeless man I like to call "The Bag Guy" (or 'the man who was living beneath the stairs at my old apartment building like a smelly old troll') who took it upon himself to give a new member of his ranks (no pun intended) a literal tour of the facility, complete with, "...and here's a good heat register to dry your socks if they get wet."



Today's activities included concluding the reading of a couple of books (Bibliophilia by Michael Griffith and Noble Destiny by Katie Macalister); paying bills; catching up on blog posts here and elsewhere; cleaning the kitchen (why oh why is that a neverending task?!); watching a movie (A River Runs Through It, which I haven't seen in years but, wow, loved it again just like before, and now I am SO much more homesick than I had been); and thinking about but not doing about twenty other things that desperately need doing before the weekend is over. I can't figure out if I'm disorganized, plagued by a time warp, or maybe just like everybody else.

[the title quotation is by Delmore Schwartz, from "Calmly We Walk Through This April's Day"]

perhaps I should have tried to keep the empty space open by keeping quiet. But I only have words, and without them I would not be able to hear...

OK, I can finally admit that keeping up with this on a daily basis really is hard work. It seems silly to say that, since I don't write a whole lot some days, but, wow. This is the longest stretch during which I've created actual content (Poetry Month notwithstanding) in...years, I'm sure. Still, I'm a day behind (and a month behind!) so there's no forward but to do it!



January 17: fifth column
Analysis of, and crackdown on, 'fifth column' activities in developed countries often appears to be paranoia in the ruling power rather than actual dissent or sabotage by others.

February 17: maieutic
My college mentor employs a maieutic approach not only in class but toward life in general. It makes interactions challenging, stimulating, and always rewarding. I miss him very much.



The ongoing interview series with bgm of Sledding with Rosebud, volume II
  1. The Time Machine has been revved up, but there has been a slight malfunction - you get to go back in time, but this time, you get to BE somebody. So, in the wide wonderful world of all history, who do you want to be?
    The first time I read these questions, I loved this alternate take on the alternate-history entry. Now that I'm writing it, though, it seems much less fun. I think that (thanks to "maieutic", above - and I believe that the question-giver will know about whom I was writing there), in thinking about history from the point of view of 'a real historian' (rather than a regular person), it has become impossible for me to consider injecting myself into it without "poisoning the timeline." If I admire someone and the way that they lived their life, how can I think that I would do it even so well? (And if I did not admire them, why would I want to live that life at all?) I think it probably answers the question just as much (or it answers a different question even better) to say that I cannot answer this question in the way it was intended.

    So, the best that I can do is to say that, putting aside issues of personality and practicality (e.g. cleanliness standards of the day), I would love to spend a day or two in the inner circle of the following people, to be someone that each of them talked to about what really mattered:

    • Frank Murphy (Associate Justice of the Supreme Court from 1940-1949, he wrote a dissenting opinion in Korematsu v. United States)
    • Gene Sarazen (an athlete and a gentleman)
    • my paternal grandfather, who died about 5 years before I was born
    • Jim Henson (it is literally impossible to imagine my childhood without Sesame Street and The Muppets!)
    • Adrienne Shelly (an actor/filmmaker whose work means a lot to me)
  2. Ah, a novel idea. Do you have any ideas rattling around in your expansive intellect about writing a novel? If you did, how would you approach it? Would you take notes on people you already know to flesh out characters? Would you choose to write an historical novel? Which direction might you take?
    I do have some ideas for longer fiction. There are handwritten notes, some vague (handwritten) outlines, some short treatments on each of my home computers and on various portable media. I would not take notes on people that I already know, necessarily - more like, through conversations with people that I know well, I will gain insight into characters that already exist in my head, in sort of not-yet-set form. Historical? No, I don't think so. Maybe it sounds strange, but that's not the way that I think. (It won't be set in the future, either.)
  3. Oh, the places you'll go... name three places you would like to visit before you shuffle off this mortal coil.
    Ireland - nothing more specific than that, since I'd like to go with someone who's been before and knows what's to see; Spain (everything); and Canada - I understand the bowling is terrific.
  4. You have sweet feet - this is self-evident. Is there a regimen you maintain to keep your feet awesome? What things do you do to pamper or dress up your peds?
    There's nothing too outlandish, I don't think? I started with good genes, of course. Hmm. Without getting into anything too technical, proprietary or unseemly...
    • regular washing (with lengthy soaking) in warmer rather than cooler water
    • scrubbing to remove dead skin - this is not something to do "only during warm weather"; regular upkeep is necessary or it gets completely out of control
    • tending to nail length and relative smoothness
    • lotion regularly. As in, more than once per day. I use a "foot-specific" cream at night, but usually either hand-lotion or even face cream in the morning. More expensive but it lasts a lot longer.
    • change polish regularly. During spring/summer/fall, that's every three days. Winter, it drags out to five- to seven.
    The most important aspect of taking care of one's feet: never, ever, ever wear cheap shoes. I don't mean cheap in the sense of "ugly" or "knock-off" or "dumb"; do what you want in that area. I mean "inexpensive and they feel like it" cheap. Sore feet never look good, and a person with sore feet never feels good. And a person who doesn't feel good because s/he has sore feet always complains. Blegh.
  5. I considered using the word succulent in the previous question, but it sounded so... wrong. So, is there anything you find succulent, whether it be food, or a book, or a person, or a physical characteristic of someone?
    Succulent food: a perfectly-cooked steak, dripping with juice and redolent of garlic
    Succulent reading: when the phone rings and you jump because you didn't even realize
    you were - the book has you so into it that you cease to be separate from what you're reading. Example: anything by Jennifer Crusie.
    Succulent person/physical characteristic of a person: hmmm. How to answer this without getting myself in heaps and loads of trouble...? I suppose it would be someone whose particular combination of physical and psychological attributes seem like a potential match to the awkward, 'oddly-shaped, interlocking and tessellating' edges that make up my individual puzzle piece. Maybe the great (if stupidly obscure) Danish author Jens Christian Grøndahl said it best, in (his fantastic novel)
    Silence in October:
    “What was it about her that made her such a watershed? ... Was it our mutual love of Mark Rothko and Morris Louis, her way of intuiting what I was going to say about them and about everything else we discussed because each of us had thought and felt the same thing? Was it the remarkable, finely tuned, undisturbed, and noiseless wavelength where we had found each other so easily, because for years we had transmitted on the same frequency without knowing it?”
[the title quotation is from Silence in October]

2.16.2012

disease is somatic; the suffering from it, psychic

January 16: immutable
While I agree that some aspects of the human persona can be changed or adapted to circumstances, I am firmly of the belief that others--such as IQ and basic personality 'type'--are immutable.

February 16: inkling
'There's nothing sexier than...' that first real inkling that a certain someone else feels that same certain way.



Under the weather and a little grumpy. Needing a weekend. Needing 3 days' worth of sleep.

[the title quotation is by Martin H. Fischer]

2.15.2012

no man drowns if he perseveres in praying to God, and can swim

January 15: inane
The average conversation in my workplace varies between three areas: popular culture (dresses at the awards shows; who's dating whom in the celebrity world; and which actress it was, y'know, who was in that one movie with, y'know, that one guy?); intellectual and philosophical debate (why the books that are worth reading are, in fact, worth reading; what it means to be 'thoughtful' or 'educated' or to have 'spirituality' [as opposed to - or perhaps more accurately as compared to - faith]; and what the things that we've read and films we've watched and even music we've heard has come to mean to us, and how it's changed and formed us, as individuals); and the truly inane (my endless droning about how Curious George isn't a goddamned monkey because he doesn't have a tail; observations that we all often talk without bothering to listen to what the others are saying; and today, a surreal and nearly day-long thread about Valentine-themed head-covering for a ceramic skull.  

February 15: cloying
I prefer honest disdain to patently artificial cloying, thanks.


  1. At what age (if at all) did you learn to swim?
    I was first in water over my head before I started school, but I first took "lessons" as part of physical education classes in junior high (seventh grade).
  2. Some educators have proposed that swimming lessons be mandatory for children. Do you think this is a good idea?
    absolutely. Anyone who lives near water - any water - should learn at least the basics for saving him/herself from drowning his (potential) rescuer in the event of an accident or worse. Bridge collapses happen. Floods happen. Stupidity happens. Leaving it up to someone else to save me, when I can potentially at least try to save myself? That's not going to happen.
  3. How often do you hang out with friends at a swimming pool?
    when my friends have swimming pools, I'm there. I love the water. I'm still not a great swimmer - I never will be - but I love to get wet, love to be around it. More under natural circumstances than pools, but I'll take what I can get.
  4. Have you ever been thrown into a pool with your clothes on?
    I don't think so? I wouldn't like it. Not because I'm concerned about my clothes so much, but just because that sort of behavior is juvenile and dangerous.
  5. How often do you visit a beach?
    see above - whenever possible!
  6. When were you last in a boat?
    it's been a while; fewer of my friends have boats than have [access to] pools.

[from The Cat, who got it here; the title quotation is a Russian proverb]

2.14.2012

I don't wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone.

January 14: fructify
Some of my plants are fructifying all over the place, which is a nice metaphor as I'm urging other areas of my life to do the same.

February 14: dally
It is in hopes of the opportunity to dally with an acquaintance of long standing that I've begun an exercise and overall health improvement program. And of course I mean that in the most innocuous of ways....



Rough day. I think I'm getting a cold, and this holiday stinks.

[the title quotation is by Javan]

2.13.2012

though love be a day and life be nothing, it shall not stop kissing

January 13: riposte
Some of us seem fated to come up with our best ripostes on the as we're leaving a party; in French, that's L'esprit d'escalier--"the spirit of the staircase".

February 13: chirography
It's time to practice my chirography--not only do I "owe" a few letters, but there are also two packages waiting only for handwritten notes to be tucked inside before they can be sent.

Winter weather is back, if only for a day or so. It was quite cold this weekend and has been snowing all day. The drive home was fine, though, more wet than anything. Tomorrow is forecast to be fairly decent, and before it snows again we've got another high in the mid-40s. This is a strange, strange season.

My parents have been through a rough couple of weeks. Two of their neighbors passed away. Each was elderly, and both died of natural causes, but it was still a shock. It is a neighborhood that lends itself more toward older people, though, because of its rather secluded location and total lack of outdoor play areas, etc. Still, it's not something one would expect.

Don't leave the important stuff to another day, just in case there is no other day.

[the title quotation is by E.E. Cummings]

2.12.2012

sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you're really strangers

January 12: collogue
Who would dare collogue about matters above his pay grade, in this economy? 

February 12: pedantic
A thoughtlessly pedantic response to a Facebook post led someone I know to be un-friended. I'm not certain that the punishment fit the crime - or that the punishment punished the punished, for that matter, or rather the punishing - but what's done is done.



The vaunted wrestling shoes, products of Earth-scouring. Finally!
[the title quotation is by Mary Tyler Moore]

2.11.2012

people say that life is the thing, but I prefer reading

January 11: holus-bolus
One of my good friends from way-way-way back has been talking about the relative ease with which he could put a fork in 'normal', so to speak, and derail (to restart) his life holus-bolus. While I question both his methods and his reasoning, I'm starting to think that the general concept - periodic reevaluation and prehaps sweeping change - is sound.
February 11: vaunted
That the newest iteration of this innovative software has been so highly vaunted is no surprise to me; the comparison to what we currently use reminds me of the old (and true) joke: Windows 95 = Mac 87.

    I've always been a reader. For as far back as I can remember, any spare moment (and probably the majority of those 'unspare' moments, too, when I should've been doing something else...) was spent reading, searching for something to read, rereading, talking about reading, writing, writing about reading, or thinking about reading or writing. Words and stories are an integral part of who I am. Maybe they are the most integral part of me, in fact. Maybe the rest of me wouldn't exist at all, now that I think about it, if I weren't tied together with thoughts and memories and feelings about what I've read, want to read, and want to write woven around and through.
     Paper, I thought, was necessary for this process. Tangibility. The weight of the book in my hand. The texture of the pages, the edge at my fingertips as I finish the page and maintain the thought while I turn it, breathless (always holding my breath while I turn the page - doesn't everyone?), rushing as I start the next.  The scent. The oppressiveness and expense of hardcover, with the benefit of staying open so much more nicely in the process. The cheapness of mass market paperbacks (16-19 cm tall - the back-pocket size you can buy at the drugstore), with the drawback of flimsiness and a tendency to look worn before they've been read through once - but also that much easier to block open with an elbow or something on the desk while I'm eating, without fearing too much for the binding. My personal preference: trade paperback (generally: softcover, the width of a hardcover but shorter [19-23 cm], bound more flexibly than mass market). In the middle, price-wise, between hardback and mass. Built for rereading. They can take a lot of use and still look as good as the day they rolled off the press.
     Where does the e-reader (by which I mean a book on an electronic device of any kind, be it reading on a desk- or laptop computer, netbook or notepad, smartphone, or dedicated e-reader) fit into all this? Well...
     When I'm asked for my opinion about something I haven't read and have zero interest in reading - and, in fact, think is a complete waste of brain cells - my response is often an equivocal, "Anything that gets people reading is a good thing." That is the gist of the answer I've given when asked about e-readers for the past couple of years. Why? Well...
     They're basically single-use, and I'm not an enthusiastic fan of single-use technology. I have several sets of miniature tartlet pans, bread pans, Bundt cake pans, and muffin tins. I have a machine that can only be used to make a Swedish dessert called Krumkake. I have the much-maligned popover pan (which can, naturally, only be used for popovers). In the kitchen, it sometimes makes sense...but, yeah, lots of times it doesn't, and if there were a way to make decent popovers in a muffin pan, I wouldn't have both. That's why I'm so sensitive to the concept of having a machine that will do one thing, and one thing only: contain a book that I'm reading. (Yes, I see the irony: each book that I have contains itself and none other, and I'm not complaining about that. We'll argue the need to acquire another day.) So unless I was going to buy a new laptop, a netbook or notepad, or a smartphone, I was highly unlikely to acquire an e-reader for myself.
     Therefore, it seemed ridiculous to either learn more about, or get attached to the idea of one day having, something that I couldn't afford. So I let myself spurn the entire concept and have basically tried to remain above the fray, letting my friends (some of whom cannot help but be embroiled in it, because of the jobs they do) muck about in it.
     This is all way it was such a genuine surprise when, for Christmas, someone who knows me very, very well (yes, in this, even better than I know myself) sent me a Kindle and a bunch of books for it, too. From the moment I'd torn the paper from the box, it was obvious that I'd been fooling myself for a long time: I was beyond thrilled. Books, anyway, are such an awesome present, and that many at once - W00T! But beyond that: he knew. He knew that I really wanted it, that I was too stubborn to say so, that I was too stubborn and stupid to get it for myself. And so, here it is.
     And what do I think of it?
     I like it a lot. I've finished the first book that I started that first night, and have moved on to another in the same series - they're fantasy novels, so they take longer for me than the typical books that I roar through without maybe thinking about so closely. There are some aspects about reading with/from/by (? whatever) the Kindle that are particularly nice. Some would apply to any e-reader, I'm sure, while some are probably only appropriate to my experience with this particular model. For instance...
     It stays "open" to a page without actually being held, regardless of where I am in the book. For someone who tends to read while doing other things (e.g. eating, drinking, writing, watching TV, talking, changing toenail polish, etc.) this is absolutely amazingly terrific. Of course, I'm also super leery of anything happening to it, so I try not to be anywhere near it with food, drink, heavy or ungainly objects (e.g. TV remotes), or caustic substances, rendering nearly everything I've just mentioned moot.
     And I can read it comfortably from a relatively long distance. According to my eye doctor, I "have the eyes of a 28-year-old." By this, I've come to understand, he means that by my current chronological age, most people who use computers as much as I do have already started to experience certain symptoms of illness, injury, and irreversible damage, both to their vision and to the physical makeup of their eyes themselves. I, for some wonderful reason, have remained relatively free of such problems. It is probably a combination of some incidental factors (my insistence on wearing sunglasses practically all the time when I'm outside, any season, in the slightest light; the ratio of white-to-iris in my eyes; the amount of white exposed when my eyes are open normally, which is (if you know me, this is no surprise) abnormally high; the shape of my eyes and the shape of my irises; the distance that I choose to sit from computer monitors at home and at work; and, perhaps most important, the degree of light that I use at home (since what's there at work cannot be controlled by humans). I'd been concerned that I would need to hold an e-reader closer to my eyes, because some phones and laptop screens are difficult to discern at certain distances, but the Kindle is very comfortable and easy to read, just where I want it. When I'm propped up on the couch (with my back to one arm and my legs stretched out) with a pillow in my lap, it's the perfect height and distance on that pillow, a mug of tea on the coffee table next to me, blanket around my legs so my feet don't freeze.
     It's light. Super light. Ridiculously light. I think my phone is heavier. (Probably not, but there are certainly times when it's seemed that way.) The Kindle is comfortable to hold, intuitively designed so that page-turning and menu-following are simple and seamless, and there is an absolute minimum of on-screen activity while reading, so I'm not distracted (or worse) by anything blinking or seemingly out of place.
     I only skimmed the extremely thorough online (i.e. on-device) user's manual - I was far too eager to get started! - so I'm still learning to take advantage of some of the more intricate features, but I know how buy and load books, and how to bookmark, highlight and make notes, which seemed key.
     Reading excessively illustrated books (or books which rely on maps or illustrations, such as the Song of Ice and Fire series!) seems like it would be complicated, to say the least, on any e-reader, mine included. When I read the books, I used Post-It notes to flag the pages that had maps or were the start of the Appendix which listed the Major Houses and their alliances. While bookmarks and notes could be created to 'flag' these pages on the Kindle, I can't imagine that someone with my level of facility in using the notes could flip back and forth with the ease that I did in the books. There are just too many references, too often, to make it seem feasible.
     Another example of this drawback would be a book with a necessary genealogical table, such as Gabriel García Márquez' One Hundred Years of Solitude. It's a terrific book (one of the best I've ever read), but without that table to lay out the generations of Buendias, it would make no sense at all - and to go back and forth to the two-page table, scrolling both up-and-down and side-to-side, would be onerous.
     Will I give up my paper books and only read electronically? No, I will not. But will I enjoy the books that I've been given, and get more when I've read these? Definitely! What a great way to save a tree, save some space when traveling, save my back when carrying luggage, save my eyes and my hands, and most of all, to continue to do what I love maybe more than anything else: to read.

[the title quotation is by Logan Pearsall Smith, from Trivia, 1917]

know, first, who you are; and then adorn yourself accordingly

(This kismet is really starting to creep me out.)

January 10: ulterior
Besides the more commonly-used meaning, ulterior can also refer to something 'situated on the farther side'. Like, say, 'in the boonies' or 'located beyond the beyond.'

February 10: scour
I scoured the world (or what seemed like it) searching for a pair of wrestling shoes that would fit, and I'm glad that I did. Once I found them, I was reluctant to take them off; they are extraordinarily comfortable and strangely stylish (in the geek chic realm).

Tomorrow: the e-reader review.

[the title quotation is by Epictetus]

2.09.2012

there is always a way to be honest without being brutal

January 9: didactic
[Wow, the irony is thick!]
One of my friends, attempting to be funny, sent a message to several others with a pointed, didactic tone that was not appreciated. I am trying to take the high road, but that often fails from the start when the "trying" falls short of the "high".

February 9: ebullient
Three words that wouldn't likely be used to describe me: perky, ebullient, flattering.

[the title quotation is by Arthur Dobrin]

2.08.2012

God gives the nuts, but he does not crack them.

January 8: vinaceous
"I wish you a vinaceous scab on the end of your perfectly appropriate over-large nose," I thought, as I gritted my teeth and creatively answered another of her outrageously intrusive questions.

February 8: zeitgeist
A2 in the early '90s had a Zeitgeist somewhat like I imagine must have existed in the truly cool academic and cultural cities a decade or two earlier: never-ending ubiquitous coffee shops and independent bookstores; the pervasive scent of hemp overriding even the reek of Polo cologne and Obsession perfume; lots of beret-wearing for the sake of being "different" (just like everybody else); and even the most shameful aspect of all: reading Kafka at the window-table of a cafe, dressed all in black...with the book upside down.

[the title quotation is by - naturally - Franz Kafka himself]

2.07.2012

the chains that bind us most closely are the ones we have broken

January 7: king's ransom
I just found out yesterday that there's to be a wedding on June 23rd...in Alaska. Even though it'll take a king's ransom to get there, I really, really want to go. Where's that fairy godmother I've been looking for?

February 7: funambulism
There are days when my official duties seem to require funambulism, whether literal or figurative. The rest of the time, though, Homer Simpson's drinking bird could do it.

[the title quotation is Antonio Porchia, from Voces, trans. from the Spanish by W.S. Merwin]

2.06.2012

even the best needles are not sharp at both ends

I'm changing the format here a little, to make things more interesting. Click the word to get the definition, or work it out from my example afterward.

January 6: omnium-gatherum
When Cat & Beast visited a couple of weeks ago, they discovered my freakishly organized omnium-gatherum of tiny boxes and contents. I think it was a revelatory moment in our friendship.
February 6: anneal
I've been annealed this year and the last; after some time to be angry and grieve, I'm getting tougher in response.

  1. Are you through with all of the stress associated with the Holidays and the New Year?
    I think so? And [bleep]ing V-Day is next week. Hoo-ray.
  2. What is the stupidest thing about New Year's resolutions?
    how bent out of shape people get about them. Look, to me it's just the natural reaction to the newness of the year, the winter, the end of the hustle & bustle of the holidays. Clearing the decks of the old stuff that's not working, and resetting the routine with something new that just might work. I don't think that they're "necessary" or even a great idea for most people, most of the time. But are they a "bad" thing? Probably not. Getting out of a rut cannot be a bad thing.
  3. We hear that Michael Vick has been given the use of a car in return for promoting a car dealership. Would you ever buy a car from that dealership?
    YES. I WOULD.
    I believe in innocent until proven guilty. And I believe in allowing those who've served their time to be DONE when they're DONE. If you're 'cleared' to be back on the streets, part of the general population, then you're back to sea level: back to innocent. Until PROVEN. Guilty. So
    ENOUGH already. The guy did what he did; he was caught. He was charged. He was convicted. He served his sentence. And he's done. That's ENOUGH!
    If we have to point fingers, let's get a mirror. Let's blame the culture of parents who shove their kids into "traveling leagues" in elementary school so they'll be up for scholarships and have a better chance to make the pros. Um, you know this when they're
    eight? Get over yourself, Stefano Capriati. Let's also blame the fans--those of us who promote the mentality that whatever they do is OK, that we'll buy their jerseys and watch their games and read their feeds anyway, regardless of what they say or do. Let's blame the press, who take a little bit of interest, blow it wildly out of proportion, and ferret their way into athletes' personal lives so far that they have no real safe space to be themselves; the entirety of their universe is (seemingly) for public viewing.
    What would Vince Lombardi say about the Leap?
  4. Do you think that eating too many carrots turns the skin orange?
    er, yes? I do believe in science' carotenosis is real.
  5. Have you ever witnessed someone stealing from a store?
    nope - not that I know of?
  6. What is the worst thing you can say to a bus driver?
    I would guess that just screaming would be the worst thing, while they're driving. This is an odd question.
  7. What grosses you out about feet?
    absolutely nothing. As everyone knows, my feet are practically perfect in every way. Well, that's my feet. In other people: showing them off, when they're not cared for. I don't mean that a $50 pedicure is necessary before one dares to step outside in sandals. I do mean that trimming one's toenails and filing off the grody dead skin is necessary before drawing attention to one's feet by wearing flashy flip-flops with iridescent beads.
  8. The highlight of your perfect day would be what?
    The right communication from the right party, tendering the right offer. It would cause no end of problems for other people (some of whom I care about a lot) but it's still as close to perfect as I can imagine.
[from The Cat, who got it here; the title quotation is a Chinese proverb]

2.05.2012

to learn something new, take the path that you took yesterday

January 5: keelhaul, meaning "to haul under the keel of a ship as punishment or torture", or "to rebuke severely".
It's been a while since I've been on the receiving end of a keelhaul. That either means I'm being well-behaved or my life's become frightfully dull.

February 5: jeunesse dorée, meaning "young people of wealth and fashion".
Regardless of my actual cultural or economic status at the time, I've never run with the jeunesse dorée of my larger social world. I'm more "blue jeans and beer-from-the-bottle" than "white gloves and wine from the continent."
[I haven't been looking at these before I start the post, so I have to admit that this one took me by surprise.]

[the title quotation is by John Burroughs]

2.04.2012

and see, no longer blinded by our eyes

January 4: causerie, meaning "an informal conversation : chat", or "a short informal essay".
One of my good friends has a very hard time pronouncing the word 'blog'; she tries too hard, making it come out closer to "blahhhg" or "blowggg" rather than the word "log" with a "b at the start." Do you think she'd find it easier to call this my causerie?

February 5: arduous, meaning "hard to accomplish or achieve", "marked by great labor or effort", or "steep".
Yesterday's trials began before I woke, when I turned off Alarm Clock #1 (next to the bed) during my sleep. That led to me being awakened by Alarm Clock #2, which is located across the room--inconveniently, intentionally. I sprang out of bed to turn off the damned thing before its droning burst my skull open, discovering mid-spring that my feet were extra-slippery because I'd lotioned them during the night (which I sometimes do, hating the feel of dry skin on flannel sheets). When the smooth soles of my feet hit the Scotch-Guarded carpeting, my lead foot slipped out from beneath me. I performed something akin to a right split, only with my back knee bent--and smashing against the floor when I landed. (I also rugburnt both hands trying to break my fall.) I knew then that it would be an arduous day.


Further proof that 'sophisticated' and 'intellectual' are relative terms.

Gift, Point (part I): Kindle Keyboard.
I'd never really thought that I would have an e-reader. Never really saw what all the fuss was about. It came as a complete surprise that I got one, for sure. Now that I have it, what do I think?
...I'll save that for a future post.
Gift, Point (part II): red leather cover for Kindle Keyboard.
SO cool! I was leery of carrying it anywhere, because my book bag is unstructured in the extreme, but now that it has its own little case, I feel like it's as safe as any other book.
Gift, Counterpoint:
Jeremiah Weed Sweet-Tea (sweet-tea flavored vodka, 70 proof),
and "Junk Drunk" shot glass actually purchased from Antique Archeology (American Pickers). 

[the title quotation is by Rupert Brooke - one of the most underrated and lovely English poets of all time]

2.03.2012

trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth

January 3: fiduciary, meaning "involving a confidence or trust", or "held or holding in trust for another".
One of the best things about singlehood is the lack of obvious fiduciary responsibilities for other people; when I take one on, I do it because I truly wish it.

February 3: pundit, meaning ""a learned person: teacher", or "an authority or critic".
It would be a deal-breaker, were I ever to find out that someone I found otherwise attractive considered himself, or desired to be thought, a pundit.



Point/counterpoint: a striking, mysterious, sophisticated mirrored box from D -
and two tiny glass cattle (Angus the Bull & Darlene the Dairy Cow) from the Cat-Beasts.

[the title quotation is by Alan Watts]

2.02.2012

be loyal to what you love, be true to the earth, fight your enemies with passion and laughter

January 2: popinjay, meaning "a strutting supercilious person".

February 2: vade mecum, meaning "a book for ready reference; manual" or "something regularly carried about by a person."

I do have a vade mecum of sorts: a small notebook, in my purse. It serves the usual purpose for practical things, but has also come to represent something more meaningful to those who know me well. Finding that one is 'in the notebook' is a sort of badge of honor, I believe: it means that I listen to you closely enough to have read double-meanings into what you say, or (in the best case) found you unforgettably clever. I alone wield the power over what is entered into the notebook, which has led to some strange negotiations and pleas about what constitutes wit.

All this, for a notebook; it makes me a bit of a popinjay, doesn't it?
 
The very dear daughter of a very dear friend made this diorama for me at Christmas with one of her good friends. As soon as I returned from the Great White North, it found a special place beneath Bob's [decorated] stool.
Thanks, P-Nut!

To know why this gift means so much to me...well, you'd have to know me pretty damned well. It's a German Christmas ornament, fragile glass, and hanging with pride from my dining room light fixture - where it will remain, because I absolutely love it, and the person who gave it.
Happy birthday just a little early, Sparky. 

[the title quotation is by Edward Abbey]

2.01.2012

it takes a long time to grow an old friend

    New month, new day, new start.


     Last week was Christmas, part two. I had four separate holiday-ish events that had either been delayed or just late-scheduled. It was a little strange, but not really. Not for me.
     One of the big hits is my new Word-of-the-Day calendar from The Cat & The Beast. Because I'm a full month behind on such things, I'll try to make up by doubling the words that I cover for this month (plus an odd few for the start of the next).

    January 1: ab ovo, meaning "from the beginning".
It is not surprising to me that, ab ovo, 2012 already seems to be getting away from me.
     February 1: backstairs, meaning "secret, furtive"; also "sordid or scandalous".
Since the implementation of the 'no private communications during work hours' rule, my electronic correspondence with the Mumbler has gone even more backstairs.

     At some point there will be photographs of all (or nearly all) of my loot - highlighting the uniquely and delightfully point/counterpoint nature of this year's gift-receiving - but for now I leave you with a picture of the fantastic bouquet that the Cat-Beasts brought to me on Saturday. Isn't it a beauty?



[the title quotation is by John Leonard]