you can hear yourself walking past on the other side

  • What are your favorite smells? vanilla, coffee, and (by default) my boss' boss
  • Can you go a whole day without caffeine? not without an incapacitating migraine
  • Who knows more about you than anyone else? D
  • What song did you last listen to? Love Hurts by Incubus

  • Do you have a crush on anybody? a "crush"? only in the vague sense
  • Do you like The Beatles? I'm not a huge, huge fan, but I do like them as a concept and won't rush to turn them off if they happen to roll around in the playlist
  • If you could choose one color to wear for a whole year, what color would you choose? dark gray
  • Do you cook often? not during this phase, no
  • What was the last film you watched? Did you like it? The Hundred-Foot Journey. I did like it. It's one of those sneaky-good movies that plants little seeds in your spirit that reveal themselves only over time and reflection. Directed by Lasse Hallström (he directed My Life as a Dog) it's not exactly one of those blockbuster movies that everyone's talking about--but they should be. Helen Mirren is a given, always terrific. Om Puri is a terrific combination of Karl Malden (that nose!) and Ray Winstone (call it a certain earthy comic timing) and Anthony Hopkins (heart). But really--Manish Dayal is just drop-dead. I liked the movie a lot.
  • Can you sew? indeed. In fact, just yesterday I hemmed a pair of over-long dress pants.

    I really hate dress pants. Always feel like I'm dressing in a grown-up's clothes when I wear them. Ish.
  • What is your favorite fruit? raspberries, strawberries, peaches. Summer fruits.
  • Are you health conscious? I am conscious of my relative health, yes. Not obsessive, for sure.
  • What is your middle initial? I have one, and it's in the first half of the alphabet, and it's a consonant.
  • Do you curse a lot? depends upon with whom I'm spending time. I've really got to settle it down at times.
  • When was the last time you had a beer? January 14
  • Are you pro sports fan? sporadically
  • Is there a certain food you often crave for no reason? few food cravings happen for no reason. It's generally pretty easy to trace, if you think about it. (Most people don't want to.) I don't bother limiting what I eat too much, just the quantity overall.
  • What was the last book you purchased? Tomas Tranströmer's The Great Enigma
  • Where was your last vacation? Los Angeles and Temecula, California
  • Do you share your fries? sure
  • Did you ever play seven minutes in heaven? yep
  • Girls, when was the last time you went out without a bra? Guys, when was the last time you went shirtless in public? a really long time. Maybe never in adulthood.
  • What's the longest you've gone "unplugged"? half my life was unplugged! But I go a weekend without it, sometimes.
  • Have you ever broken a bone? If so, how did it happen? a collarbone when I was a little kid, and a toe a couple of times as an adult. Not sure about the first one, but the other two were both tripping over stacks of books. There may have been another involving a sneeze and a tub faucet.
  • How do you like your eggs? scrambled hard
  • What was your last argument about and who with? it was with someone who is lucky that they do not realize how angry I was, that I chose not to engage, and that I walked away. It's tiresome, being the one who's always wrong.

[got it here, who got it here; the title quotation is by Tomas Tranströmer, and comes from 'Reply to a Letter', excerpted below:

"Sometimes a wide abyss separates Tuesday from Wednesday, but twenty-six years may pass in a moment. Time is no straight line. but rather a labyrinth. and if you press yourself against the wall, at the right spot, you can hear the hurrying steps and the voices, you can hear yourself walking past on the other side."]


  1. Your boss's boss? I hope this is a manufactured scent--which is not something I am prone to saying--not a, well, stench.

    You aren't always wrong. You're probably more likely always right. People need to figure out how to tell when you're angry.

    1. It is an insidiously mesmerizing cologne--and completely at odds with his slightly doofy, over-hale, entirely unsexy persona.

      In all fairness, I have grown into more of a seething hothead, and would certainly benefit by learning to better express my feelings before they roil into full-on fury. But you're not wrong, either, in what you wrote.

  2. Do find out what that scent is, ok? I'm not sure how one does this with a guy; it's hard enough to ask a woman what cologne she's wearing.

    You, a seething hothead? Perish the thought! ;-) Maybe you should muay thai and just start letting everything hang out.