I've influenced many people, good and bad. Some of the good: by being a positive example (in some ways); by being generous or loyal; by listening rather than talking; or by accepting what they needed to give.
b) I moved out of the office and into permanently working-from-home
• weather
27: What was one nice thing you did for for somebody else today?
I let something go that I felt a strong urge to mess with. It's not much in my nature to leave things be, but rather to pick the scab and see whether it'll bleed. I'm learning, though.
28: What have you accomplished this month?
listed hundreds of items on eBay, paid down some bills, and put a halt to completely terrible eating
29: What do you want to accomplish in the coming month?
sell dozens of items on eBay, pay down more bills, and keep eating better and exercising
30: List 3 good things that happened in the last month.
a) my kitchen/dining room/fireplace room renovation was completed
c) my peas started coming up
31: What is something meaningful that happened in the last month?
I started reading again, after a few months' break
32: Look back at question #29. How will you accomplish your goals?
1. Have to list them to sell them, so I'm pushing through that process as fast as I can
2. I've got a budget, and am sticking to it
3. Will power and lacking extra money for treats and outings helps
33: What do you tell yourself in order to motivate yourself?
my self-talk tends to be negative rather than positive
34: Do you think first impressions matter? Why or why not?
definitely. How else do we get to know or understand or like someone or something? It is the process of impressions, however many it takes to make it happen. Sometimes it seems instantaneous, while other times it is a longer, more fluid process. I'm still deciding about some people I've known for years.
35: Do you think our generation is becoming smarter or dumber?
it's not generational - it's societal. We are improving in some ways while falling behind in others. Same old thing.
36: What do you look for in a significant other?
presence
37: What are 3 things that truly affect your life, not including people?
• pollen
• rabbits playing in the yard
38: Is it possible to change your mindset in under 2 months? 1 month? 1 week? How long does it take you to change your mindset about things?
I suppose that depends on the mindset, and how firmly it is held. Lots of things are flexible, while others are not at all.
39: Do you have a place that inspires you? Relaxes you? What is so special about this place?
that's how I feel about the River. If I desperately need a recharge, that is where I am drawn to go. It's been that way all my life. What's so special about it? Kind of like looking up at the stars, and so getting the necessary sense that we're microscopic specks in a vast universe—watching the river go by reinforces the fact that, however insurmountable a problem might feel, or permanent a mood may seem, they're nothing in the stream of things. Water's still gonna keep flowing east.
40: Which is more important- imagination or logic? Why?
imagination- because logic is objective, while imagination is personal
41: What do you look for in a relationship? Are you more serious or do you just want to have fun?
all of my relationships are both serious and fun. I have a serious nature, and I'm also funny. My friends are variations of the same.
42: Do you despise or dislike those who have different views from you? Do you look down on them? Or are you open-minded?
I'm not very judgmental (I hope)
43: Is isolation, even in the smallest way, healthy?
if you phrase it that way - as "isolation" - it sounds pretty negative. But solitude, time alone to figure out who you really are, what you want, what your priorities are, and to recharge after being through stress, is important and wonderful.
44: Are any people, all the way to the core, completely shallow?
yes
45: When do you label a person as ignorant?
I don't
46: Do you think people that complain often are annoying? How do you stop someone from complaining?
most people probably go through phases of complaining, and probably without realizing it. It's part of life. Venting is a good thing, keeping one from bottling up emotions that will burst out in wholly negative ways. When it gets out of hand, though, it can drag down not only the listeners but the complainer as well. Addressing it head-on (sensitively) is probably the best approach. There is a difference between bringing someone's attention to their excessive complaining and no longer being supportive—that line is where co-dependency begins.
47: If you had a (another, if you already have one) younger brother, how would that change your life? What about a younger sister?
a decent amount of my life, in psychological terms, has been influenced by birth order. As the youngest child of three, there were not a lot of automatic No moments. Not saying I was left to fend for myself or had perfect autonomy (hahahahaha) but more like, by the time I showed up, some of the sharp edges had been filed off my parents' parenting, leaving a more hands-off/meh approach to my upbringing. That allowed me to follow my instincts, whims and passions to a greater extent than I perceive my siblings having done.
If there were more, after me, would that have changed? Maybe so. My siblings have through my whole life evidenced a sort of "responsibility" or at least active monitoring (more or less successful) of my activities. Had I needed to do that for someone else, prehaps my unique blend of passion and selfishness would have been less distinct.
48: When was the last time you asked someone a personal question? Did you end up having a personal conversation with them? How did this conversation affect you?
this weekend, by FB message. Yes, I did have a personal conversation with her - and it was extremely positive. She's a dear friend and I'm lucky to know her and be in her orbit (despite the sticky).
49: Do you think you know yourself pretty well? Is there anyone who "knows you better than you know yourself?"
I do know myself pretty well. There is one person who knows me better than I know myself, at least some aspects of my nature.
50: Have you been trying to accomplish your goals? If not, can you not accomplish them or are you just being lazy? How can you stop yourself from being lazy?
goals can be elusive despite our best efforts. Having a goal of finding a new job, for instance, relies a great deal on others. It's the same with selling. Other goals can be complicated by other factors, like losing weight - there's only so much one can do, short of chopping off body parts.
I do believe that my goals are achievable, and that I can overcome my native laziness to make it happen. I'm learning more about job-searching all the time, and implementing new strategies that are seeing results. eBay listings are always a work in progress, and as I go along and learn something new, I can go back and edit what I have out there for better outcomes. Now that I am WFH permanently, my schedule will be less screwy and should allow for more routine exercise and proper eating. In all, things are going (cautiously optimistically) well.
51: How do you feel about people who don't think that their families are important?
I feel the same way that I would have felt had I not known that. I'm not into judging others for their priorities that way. Unless they want me to know the whole backstory, I'll never really understand their 'why' - and even if they do tell me, I'll know only their take on it. Really, what does it matter? My opinion is irrelevant.
[from here and adapted; the title quotation is by Rabindranath Tagore]
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