303: Have you ever lost to love? Have you ever been so infatuated with someone to the point where you found yourself changing because of them?
when I was young, maybe. The desire to make oneself as appealing as possible to one's love interest is nearly universal, but that insecurity fades with experience and confidence. If you like me, you'll like me - not who I pretend to be.
304: Is it unhealthy to want to change for somebody else? Why or why not?
wanting to change for someone else is unhealthy, for sure. Changing as the result of being with someone else, though, can be a wonderful thing. Meeting someone whose opinions and experiences and knowledge open your eyes to the world in a new way, who invigorates your thoughts and feelings and desires, who makes you want to try things you've never tried before - that's healthy and terrific, and can be part of falling in love! That's not changing for somebody, it's growing as the result of chemistry. That's a marvel.
305: What were you doing last year around this time?
pretty much the same thing as this year. I think I was WFH at this point in 2020, having groceries delivered, struggling to grow some plants in pots on the deck despite the weather, reading a lot, and maybe not getting enough sleep. Sounds about the same, overall!
306: Have your views on anything changed since before COVID?
people in general have weathered the COVID storm better than I'd expected. Not from a medical/scientific standpoint (good gravy people are dumb about that) but in the social and emotional sense. We're more cognizant and respectful of other peoples' personal space, their mental health needs, and also the differences that exist between us (like the WFH yay [as in, woohoo] or nay concept). I've been reluctantly impressed.
307: Do you think it is good to look back at memories?
of course. How else will we learn from our mistakes, and celebrate our successes?
308: Do you enjoy writing in journals?
not always, but it is always time well spent. A lot of the time it is painful, really.
310: Why are words so powerful? Why do they affect us so deeply?
words are our connection to each other when we can't be together. Across time and distance. They cause problems - and they can very simply solve them. Words are a miracle.
312: Do you spend more time thinking about yourself or about other people?
I haven't tracked the percentages
313: What is the most selfish thing someone could ever do?
eat the my share of the bacon
314: What is the most selfless thing someone could ever do?
give up a weekend to be with me
316: Does money matter to you?
of course it does. That's how I pay for things that I need or want. In a sense it keeps me alive.
317: Can a person truly be confident or does that confidence stem from insecurity?
Jesus. Confidence stems from knowing who you are and having faith in that. That comes from security, not the inverse.
Yes, a person can be truly confident. Some of my favorite people are.
318: Do you respect people more if they are confident? Why or why not? What is so attractive or unattractive about being confident?
confidence is appealing, yes. It tells me who you are. It tells me you trust me to make up my own mind about you - that you're laying it out and letting me decide what to do with it. It lets us get to the heart of something without wasting time on explanations or apologies.
320: If you are not doing anything, you are wasting your life- do you disagree or agree with this?
sometimes you need to not do anything, to get your head (or heart) back together. To remind yourself of what's really important. Sometimes you need to be active, productive, positive. There's good and bad all the time, phases of ups and downs - sometimes at the same time. None of it is wasted.
321: What is the most disgusting trait someone can have?
willful blindness
324: Do you think you have thought any thoughts that nobody else has ever thought about before?
sure - plenty of them. I Am Unique!
[from here and adapted to my whim; the title quotation is by Neil Gaiman, from American Gods]
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