• I earned two advanced degrees (coming from a blue-collar family)
• I haven't traveled overseas... yet
• I do not live with a cat
• I've become known for my talent with houseplants
• I exercise regularly - on purpose
• I do math for my job
178: If you were forced to leave everyone you know, would you say anything to anyone? Or would you leave quietly? You can't contact them ever again.
what's the hypothetical circumstance in which this could possibly come about? Witness protection? Am I running away with the fully inappropriate love of my life? Am I being run out of town on a rail for my misdeeds? The state of affairs surrounding my departure would dictate how I would handle it.
180: What are some words of advice you would give to a teenager?
181: Do you identify yourself as mature? Immature? Why?
I don't really think about it
183: How can reaching out to others hurt them? How can reaching out to others hurt yourself?
Some things are better left alone, and some wounds can't heal unless you stop picking at them.
184: Discuss this statement: Those who have not experienced enough are immature. Do you agree with this?
Feh. What constitutes "enough"? Whose position rules the day?
There is a lot of talk like this in my friendship circles at times. About the value of "living away" for a time, versus "staying in one place all your life." Well, I lived away and was still immature despite the circumstances. My parents haven't lived outside the area - they are hardly immature. What's right for me is not necessarily (or likely) right for someone else. Who's to judge?
if I do, I also get over it
being a good friend depends on the person; it's a chemical reaction, not a static state. Some relationships are shallow as a clear pond, and others are deep and vast like an ocean—murky and sometimes dangerous but infinitely changing.
197: What are your thoughts on casual sex?
186: Are you good at keeping touch with others?
specific people, yes - most of the time. Otherwise I'm terrible at it.
188: What does "I'm proud of you" mean to you?
it means I would never try to pretend you're not important to me, or that I don't treasure you just the way you are
189: How would you describe yourself as a child? Were you happy?
happy, oblivious, curious
190: What question should you never ask someone?
"Are you lying?" There are no satisfying answers to that question.
191: What does it mean to be a good friend? Are you a good friend?
Am I a good friend? Ask my friends.
193: Do you think just being there for a friend is good enough?
as opposed to...? Trying to fix someone, or someone else's thing, is an exercise in futility. Just being there is not just good enough - it's pretty much necessary.
194: If you gave someone your real opinion in order to help him/her, but he/she was hurt by it, do you deserve to feel guilty? Or is guilt invalid because you were trying your best to help him/her?
"help" is the disturbing word in this prompt. Am I foisting my 'help' unasked? Am I telling a 'real opinion' that will hurt but not help? What's my motivation? What's the cost? What's the relationship?
And the idea of guilt being "invalid" is irrelevant. Feelings are feelings, and validity is not an element of the equation.
195: Are there some people who don't deserve to have friends?
yes
196: Are romantic relationships necessary to obtain happiness?
that depends on the person...and the romantic relationships
'casual' is defined differently by every person who considers the subject
198: What are your thoughts on flirtatious people?
some of my favorite people are flirtatious people
199: What do you consider flirting?
it's like obscenity in a way, in the sense that I can't define it but I know what it is when I see it. It might be described as interplay that your S.O. would not appreciate, if it's with someone other than your S.O.
200: Can a guy and a girl have a platonic friendship without ever liking each other?
absolutely
201: Looking back at the last 12 months, do you regret anything?
yes
[from here; the title quotation is by Charlotte Brontë, from Jane Eyre]
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