3.04.2022

the one they know completely and don’t ever quite know

        
It is good for strangers 
of few nights to love each other 
(as she and I did, eighteen years ago, 
strangers of a single night) 
and merge in natural rapture— 
though it isn’t exactly each other 
but through each other some 
force in existence they don’t acknowledge 
yet propitiate, no matter where, 
in the least faithful of beds, 
and by the quick dopplering of horns 
of trucks plunging down Delancey, 
and next to the iron rumblings 
of outlived technology, subways up for air, 
which blunder past every ten minutes 
and botch the TV screen in the next apartment, 
where the man in his beer 
has to get up from his chair over and over 
to soothe the bewildered jerking 
things dance with internally, 
and under the dead-light of neon, 
and among the mating of cockroaches, 
and like the mating of cockroaches, 
who were etched before the daybreak 
of the gods with compulsions to repeat 
that drive them, too, to union 
by starlight, without will or choice. 
 
It is also good—and harder— 
for lovers who live many years together 
to feel their way toward 
the one they know completely 
and don’t ever quite know, 
and to be with each other 
and to increase what light may shine 
in their ashes and let it go out 
toward the other, and to need 
the whole presence of the other 
so badly that the two together 
wrench their souls from the future 
in which each mostly wanders alone 
 
and in this familiar strange room, 
for this night which lives 
amid daily life past and to come 
and lights it, find they hold, 
perhaps shimmering a little, 
or perhaps almost spectral, only the loved 
other in their arms. 
 
                    
 Flying home, looking about 
in this swollen airplane, every seat 
of it squashed full with one of us, 
it occurs to me I might be the luckiest 
in this planeload of the species; 
for earlier, 
in the airport men’s room, seeing 
the middle-aged men my age, 
as they washed their hands after touching 
their penises—when it might have been more in accord 
with the lost order to wash first, then touch— 
peer into the mirror 
and then stand back, as if asking, who is this? 
I could only think 
that one looks relieved to be getting away, 
that one dreads going where he goes; 
while as for me, at the very same moment 
I feel regret at leaving 
and happiness to be flying home. 
 
                            
As this plane dragging 
its track of used ozone half the world long 
thrusts some four hundred of us 
toward places where actual known people 
live and may wait, 
we diminish down into our seats, 
disappeared into novels of lives clearer than ours, 
and yet we do not forget for a moment 
the life down there, the doorway each will soon enter: 
where I will meet her again 
and know her again, 
dark radiance with, and then mostly without, the stars. 
 
Very likely she has always understood 
what I have slowly learned 
and which only now, after being away, almost as far away 
as one can get on this globe, almost 
as far as thoughts can carry—yet still in her presence, 
still surrounded not so much by reminders of her 
as by things she had already reminded me of, 
shadows of her 
cast forward and waiting—can I try to express: 
 
that love is hard, 
that while many good things are easy, true love is not, 
because love is first of all a power, 
its own power, 
which continually must make its way forward, from night 
into day, from transcending union always forward into difficult 
day. 
And as the plane descends, it comes to me, 
in the space 
where tears stream down across the stars, 
tears fallen on the actual earth 
where their shining is what we call spirit, 
that once the lover 
recognizes the other, knows for the first time 
what is most to be valued in another, 
from then on, love is very much like courage, 
perhaps it is courage, and even 
perhaps 
only courage. Squashed 
out of old selves, smearing the darkness 
of expectation across experience, all of us little 
thinkers it brings home having similar thoughts 
of landing to the imponderable world, 
the transcontinental airliner, 
resisting its huge weight down, comes in almost lightly, 
to where 
with sudden, tiny, white puffs and long, black, rubberish smears 
all its tires know the home ground. 
 

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