3.10.2023

I was the one who wanted to stop

After Gary asked, "Will we ever read 
    any normal people in this class?" and I quipped, 
        "No, of course not," and after the laughter had quieted, 
we ambled through "Song of Myself," celebrating 
    our "respiration and inspiration," traveling along 
        with the voices of sailors, prostitutes, presidents, and tree toads, 
in sync with the poet's vision. No one 
    this time—not even Gary—grumbled about 
        Whitman's disgusting ego, and yet when we came to the place 
where God is "a loving bedfellow" 
    who leaves "baskets covered with white towels 
        bulging the house with their plenty," I was the one who 
wanted to stop. At that point, I've always 
    been puzzled. I get it that a lover could 
        be like a god. But towels? We'd just finished The House 
of the Seven Gables, and I wondered if 
    Hepzibah or Phoebe ever sold linens in their shop. Yet 
        we never hear Hawthorne talking about blankets or sheets or 
how anybody washes his face or her hands, 
    let alone armpits or "soft-tickling genitals"—leave 
        those to Uncle Walt. The store Hepzibah opened: a first step 
in leaving the shadows of her cursed 
    ancestors, of joining the sunlit world. Last summer 
        when my husband and I moved back into our old house after 
a massive redo, we gave away box after box 
    of sweaters and tchotchkes. We even disposed of old 
        books, including those with my neon markings in the margins 
blunt as Gary's outbursts in class: "Ugh," 
    "NO," and 'Wow!" It was time to loosen the mind 
        beyond the nub of the old self. My mother used to huff through 
the house every year like a great wind, 
    and when she settled down, not a doll over 
        twelve months old remained, not a dress, not a scarf, not even 
lint wisping in a drawer. One year during 
    a flood, my husband's letters from lifelong friends 
        drowned in the garage, morphed back into pulp. I never hoped 
the past would vanish into a blank, and yet, 
    when Holgrave in the novel cries, "Shall we never, 
        never get rid of this Past!" I, too, want it washed clean, to wake 
in the morning released from echoes 
    of my father's muttered invectives, my mother's 
        searing tongue. I've now torn to rags the rust-stained 
towels from my former marriage and 
    my husband's bachelorhood linens, raveled 
        threads drooping like fishnets. How Hawthorne's Phoebe 
opened that heavy-lidded house 
    to the light. I used to scorn her chirpy domesticity, 
        praying along with Emily Dickinson—whose balance 
Gary had also questioned—"God keep me 
    from what they call households." And yet, after 
        my husband and I returned to our remade, renewed house, 
what did I do but go shopping 
    for towels. Back and forth to seven strip malls, 
        bringing home only to return I don't know how many colors, 
till, finally, I settled on white. And as I 
    pulled out my MasterCard to pay for the contents of 
        my brimming cart, a gaunt, wrinkled man entered the check-out 
line, hands pressing to his chest 
    two white towels just like mine, eyes lifted 
        to the fluorescent ceiling as if in prayer. I doubt that Gary 
would think it normal to greet the divine 
    while clutching terry cloth. But now I see that Whitman 
        knew what fresh towels could mean for a dazed and puffy 
face, white towels unspecked by blood 
    or errant coils of hair, towels that spill from 
        a laundry basket like sea-foam. Like cirrus clouds adrift while 
we're loafing on tender, newly sprouted 
    blades of grass growing from the loam under our boot soles, 
        from graves of the old and decaying, all we've finally buried. 
 
[Wendy Barker {1942-2023} 'Books, Bath Towels, and Beyond', from The Best American Poetry 2013]

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