how can I be substantial if I do not cast a shadow? I must have a dark side also if I am to be whole

Freud

    I am fascinated by the sorts of quizzes designed to help a person know more about who they really are. One of my favorites is The Color Quiz, a very short (3 minutes maybe?) test of preferences, no hard thinking needed. I've taken it several times—the first in 2004, with results shared here, and next in 2012 with results here. This third time, my results have changed again. Isn't that marvelous?

    The stuff with which I particularly agree is in italics, and most highly apt are in red bold.

 

Color Quiz

Thank you for taking the Color Quiz! 

These results are provided as a fun way to examine your personality but even though the results are very accurate you should not consider them a diagnosis. See a doctor or psychologist for that! 

 

Your Existing Situation: "Very emotional and artistic, enjoys being surrounded by beauty and art. Looking for a partner who always has an eye for beauty and who enjoys close, loving relationships." 

 

Your Stress Sources: "Feels unappreciated and in an unpleasant position. Needs personal recognition and the respect of others, since she has not been about to find partners who value the same things she does. She holds back her emotions and is unable to give fully of himself, but lasting isolation makes her want to change those ways and surrender to her deep urges. Giving in to her natural instincts and urges is a sign of weakness, so feeling this way makes her weak and irritable. Fighting these urges makes her feel stronger, as if she can take on anything that comes her way. Longs to be valued as an important associate and admired for her personal qualities." 

 

Your Restrained Characteristics: "Although she feels isolated and alone, she is afraid of forming deep, meaningful relationships. Is conceited and is easily offended." Applies tough standards to her potential partner and demands an unrealistic perfection in her sex life. Current events leave her feeling forced into compromise in order to avoid being cut off from affection or future cooperation. 

 

Your Desired Objective: "Looking to make a good impression and be recognized for her achievements. She has a strong need to feel appreciated and look up to. She is very sensitive and will be hurt if she is rejected, unnoticed, or not given adequate acknowledgement." 

 

Your Actual Problem: "Needs to be viewed and respected as an outstanding individual, in order to build her self-esteem and self-worth. Resists any type of weakness and sets high standards for himself." 

 

Your Actual Problem #2: "All energy has been used and she has none left to engage in anymore anxiety or demands. Feeling powerless to change the situation, leaving her frustrated, agitated, irritated, and annoyed with himself. Tries to escape by acting stubbornly sticking to her opinions, but her helplessness leads to some insecurities. Very sensitive to criticism and easily offended."

 

[the title quotation is by C.G. Jung, from Modern Man in Search of a Soul]