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1. You've got an idea for a wildly erotic story—will you write it? 

    if it was a good idea for a good story that had a legitimate chance of publication and happened to be wildly erotic, then I can imagine actually writing such a thing. Anything short of that, and anything that's terribly personal, wouldn't have the slimmest hope of seeing the light of day.

 

2. Are there any little tricks you'd like to share? 

    - listen

    - breathe

    - speak up

    - trim & file your nails

    - make an offer

    - be kind to yourself and others

    - laugh

 

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3. If they asked, would you rate a former lover on a scale of one to ten? How about a current one?

    God, no. I don't think anything good can come of such a thing! There are some circumstances where too much honesty is dangerous. I certainly wouldn't want anyone to share such information with me!

    That being said, I've done it (rated, and even made a list), and would do it again, but only for my own edification.

 

4. Would you wish to go shopping for sexy lingerie with a partner, or a potential partner? 

    no, I think that the shopping isn't the sexy part, but the wearing (and being willing to wear). Anyway, from a practical standpoint the shopping can be a bit uncomfortable, ridiculous and embarrassing. A lot of what's out there is, uh, not for everyone, y'know? It can take a while to find what works.

 

5. "Clues to the treasure...." Would you create a map of your body and indicate where and when you'd like to be touched during sex? 

    snort  

    I'm never going to discourage communication, especially with an intimate partner. 

    Despite this general rule, I'm also not going to draw a fucking diagram, with labels and footnotes and a timeline. 

    And yep, that pun was intended.

 

6. If you were to have sex with a celebrity, who would it be? 

    good sex is not solely about finding an attractive body to bounce off of (or with). If I'm not emotionally connected to someone (or, preferably, with someone), then their physical attractiveness ain't gonna make up the difference.

 

7. Would you be nervous or excited in a sex shop? 

    would it shock the world to know that I've experienced such a thing already? They're a lot like any other sort of specialty store: some are squalid, some are surprisingly posh, and most are somewhere in between. I was barfing nervous the first time—which was with a high school friend (we were still in high school), close to where I grew up, and particularly squalid. I was excited/nervous the last time—which was in an especially shady part of a city where I'd never been, with someone who made me nervous-excited on the average day. Most of the time it's awkward, surreal, and vaguely embarrassing.

 

 [from 269 Red Hot XXX-Rated Questions; the title quotation is by Cora Carmack, from Finding It]