if I suffered only one fool gladly, I assure you it would be you

Do you want to know the passcode to your partner's phone? 

    I was given the passcode to a partner's phone. I used it one time, while they were present (driving the car we were in). We accomplished their desired goal, and then I tried hard to forget it. 

    I don't want to be that kind of person. I don't want to suspect, give into suspicion, or snoop. I don't want to be unreliable—because nothing conveys "trustworthy" like digging into what someone's kept private.

 

Have you ever had a crush on a co-worker? 

    I do right now

 

Is there a movie or TV scene that perfectly describes your ideal romantic moment? 

    besides those I've already mentioned, there's a sort of progression in the BBC miniseries Our Mutual Friend (1998; reviewed here and here) where a couple goes through great difficulties to get where they need to be. That dedication to how they feel—despite knowing nothing of how the other feels—is very romantic indeed.

 

Have you ever sexted? 

    yep. The details, and the activity itself... meh. Not worth the trouble. 

 

What is the most backhand compliment you've ever received? 

    "you're better than a girlfriend. You're like a sister!" I wanted to be the girlfriend, but realized (even before this phrase was said) that it was not going to happen. The sibling-ness was a treasure, anyway, and grew to be even more so as time went on. Looking back on it now, I wouldn't trade it for anything. Girlfriends are temporary; sisters—at least to him—are forever.

 

What is the worst advice you've ever gotten? 

    "go for it." That's a loaded gun, a tank full of fuel, a box of strike-anywhere matches, and a stash of unmarked bills, all rolled into one.

 

What are the biggest misconceptions about you? 

    that I'm as quiet in my head as I am face-to-face. 

    That I am nice because I look the way I do—which is, alas, "nice."

    That I'm boring because I'm smart.

 

What's your most controversial political opinion? 

    that I'm entirely unwilling to discuss my political opinions, with anyone

 

Would you ever discuss your sex life with your friends? 

    eh. I have, but that's unlikely to continue into the future. Anyway, the 'discussion' was generalized and in the vein of "that's all [so and so] is good for."

 

Would you be OK with your partner discussing your sex life with their friends? 

    I would be OK with having a partner who wanted to discuss our sex life with their friends. Beyond that, everything is negotiation and compromise.

 

Would you marry someone with a low credit score? 

    not likely. It wouldn't be so much about the credit score itself as the activities and behavior that get you there. Think of me more like an insurance agent or a recruiting firm, analyzing the score as a basis for something other than credit. What are you doing to make yourself "credit-worthy" or not? Job-hopping, failing to pay bills at the agreed time, opening an excessive number of accounts, not maintaining an account for a decent period of time? All those things can reflect what kind of person that you are, and if you're reliable, and how you handle your responsibilities. If all this is in the negative, then why would I want to hitch my horse to that wagon?

 

[from here; the title quotation is by Iain M. Banks, from Look to Windward]