the things we do without the fear of failure and the desire for success are the purest acts we'll ever do

88. Is there something you’ve wanted to do for a long time but haven’t yet? What would that be?  

learn to dance elegantly

89. What do you think about abiding the law vs. following your own moral code? 

do what you can, but trust your gut

90. How would you feel if your spouse was in love with another person?  I would want them to tell me the truth - even though it temporarily hurt a lot - rather than lying by omission, and humiliating me and hurting me both. I would also want them to be with the one they loved.

91. What do you value most – comfort or personal growth? 

depends on the circumstances. It's hard to turn up my nose at comfort when some parts of life are really unstable. But I can't deny that I'm drawn to the unknown and endlessly curious.

92. If you had to choose, would you rather harm yourself, or others around you? 

again, it depends. Am I surrounded by a bunch of jerks? Or my dearest friends? Random strangers? Is there some utility to the harming, or am I juggling chainsaws and have to either catch or deflect the one I can't quite juggle?

93. Could you commit suicide if you knew it would save the lives of 100 other people? 200 people? 5,000? 100,000? 

give me an even slightly plausible theoretical where this could happen, and I will consider it. That's the problem with these moral utility questions--they are deliberately designed to be easy to answer. Make it truly complex and give yourself something to really think about.

94. How do you think porn affects our society?  

I think that porn is a weapon that people use against each other, as much as it is a true "vice" that causes problems in and of itself

95. If you only had those two options, would you rather make all drugs illegal, or make all of them made legal?  

this is another question that is - as my dear friend Fluffy would say - "junior-high-er-ish." Given the two choices, is any thinking necessary? On the one hand, you have unnecessary imprisonment for truly minor issues. On the other, you have deadly substances being lumped in with the recreational and easily taxed. This is a gray area question, and that's why it has not yet been answered in the real world.

96. What stops you from lying and stealing? Would you do it if you knew for sure you’d never get caught? 

it's knowing what it feels like to be on the other side. Ethics are not about punishment.

97. Have you ever done what you thought was the “right thing” with catastrophic results? 

oh man—all the damn time. My emotions are close to the surface and sometimes run hot, so what I think is the right thing to do is occasionally the polar opposite.

98. If you knew that you were to die soon, what would you do? 

finish my death letter and reconcile my accounts, emotionally speaking

99. Is there ANYTHING that’s too serious to joke about? What would that be? 

there are plenty of topics that are inappropriate for jokes. If you don't know, there's no point in telling you.

100. What’s something you think that you think no one else thinks?  

that there's got to be a different job, somewhere, that I would be good at and that would be good for me

101. What’s the angriest you’ve ever been? What happened? 

after Brian the Army Guy and I broke up, he sort of stalked me, unsatisfied by the explanation that I'd given for the split. He called my apartment, but I would not take the calls. I avoided him at school. My coworkers shielded me when he'd stop at the store or my work-study job. The one place I hadn't thought to guard: my parents' house. I went out there for my weekly Sunday morning breakfast, and he called. My dad, not knowing anything was up, handed off the phone to me. The conversation started out well enough - I was trying to keep quiet - but he started pushing my buttons and I wasn't going to stand for it. He was deliberately calm, which for some reason tends to make me lose my shit in a hurry. I started yelling, which made him incredulous, which made me infinitely more angry. I finally started screaming at him, "I wasn't the ENGAGED one, you ASSHOLE! I was the STUPID one you were FUCKING on the SIDE, while you had your whole sweet future mapped out! And when you 'decided to see other people - to 'prove' your 'love' - I was just ONE of those STUPID other people you were FUCKING, you FUCKER." And so on. until I recalled where I was, who was listening, and what'all I was giving away. 

    That is the most angry I can remember being. It's one thing for him to have been doing it in the first place; entirely another to have played innocent and tried to dump it on me.

102. Could you bring yourself to kill someone in self-defense? 

I don't know? Probably not. I'd like to say yes unequivocally, but realizing that I gag when I squish a beetle makes that a hard question.

103. Could you bring yourself to kill someone to save a friend’s life? What if the person you had to kill was innocent? 

First: could I kill someone who was CLEARLY "guilty", to save a friend's life? If the person I love most in the world was lying face down and another person was about to plunge a knife into their back, could I shoot my gun? Yes. No doubt in my mind.

    Second: "if the person I had to kill was innocent"? What farfetched scenario could possibly bring about this need? Friend needs a transplant so I kill a guy with the right rare blood type and harvest his organ in a motel room? Friend needs employment in order to buy food, and the guy has one of those "you'd have to kill a guy" sweet jobs like cataloging at a public library, so I bump him off to make room? I seriously cannot think of a situation where this could possibly happen in the real world. 

    I'd like to say that I could kill anyone to save a friend's life, but I'm not sure I have it in me. 

104. If you could ask the reaper to spare your loved one, what would you tell him? 

in the particular case I'm thinking of, I would only ask that he take me instead. The rest is just details.

105. In which situations do you think war is called for? 

look back through history and you'll find plenty of examples of just wars. Read up and we can talk about it for a day or two.

106. If you ended up in a coma for 10 years, still conscious but unable to communicate, would you want them to pull the plug? 

yup, and that's why I've got a Healthcare Directive signed and in place, with copies at each of my doctors' offices and with my attorney-in-fact and family members. And if they wait 10 years to do it, I'll fucking haunt them until the end of time.

107. [this question was so infernally stupid that I replaced it with one of my own]

    All jokes aside - what is best about living alone?

not needing to be 'on'. Obviously there are degrees to that, and people to whom the concept of "public face" doesn't really apply - but they also tend to be those whom I want to see me in the best light, about whom I care the most, so I'm going to put in some effort to be nice and clean and a less overtly vile person than otherwise. When I'm alone, my guard is down. I might sometimes be lonely or afraid, but I'm not offending or losing love that way.

[from here; the title quotation is attributed to Alan Moore]