if you do good, good will be done to you

Never underestimate the value of having help to fold your sheets. Maybe your help does it "wrong"--but it's still done. Having folded several sets of Queen-sized sheets (and blankets) over the past two weeks, I am reminded of how much easier it can be with four hands rather than two.

Every time I think I'm as tired as a person can possibly be, I find out. Surely there are better ways to exceed one's own understanding and possibilities.

On that note: potato chips and Jello make a delicious dinner.

My laundry is done. Well, it has been washed. A plethora of it is in various stages of drying around the house, since I kept pulling it out of the dryer too early. The dryer is original to the house, I think, and may not be the most efficient machine ever. It is also excessively...fuzzy.

I hung a couple of pictures on the wall in The Library (the office? the den? whatever that room is that's across the hall from the master bedroom, but isn't the guest bedroom) tonight, and also my confirmation cross, in its typical position in the hallway. One of the library pictures needs new glass and possibly a new frame, as it was damaged on its way to its last home. I am already starting to feel more settled, now that the walls are not completely bare.

Speaking of bare: my toenails have been without polish for a week. I saw my new doctor last Thursday. Before I went in, I took off my polish because so much can be revealed by inspecting one's toenails. As it happens, it did not turn out to be that in-depth an examination, but it was time for a break anyway. Still, it seems weird to have bare toes, and I am eager to get them polished up again. My new doctor seems quite decent, personable and easy to talk to--but he's no Dr. Cutie. I think it would be pretty much impossible for anyone to measure up to the level of my last doctor.

Some friends have asked to store their Harley Davidson motorcycle in my garage for the winter. It's exciting to think that I can do something nice for someone else, to be there when needed, almost right from the start of this process. I love owning this house, but that makes it really amazingly wonderful.

[the title quotation is a Croatian proverb]


greed is eternal

As I sit on the floor, enjoying my second Ramen noodle dinner as a homeowner, I am finally ready to share the results of my sporadic searching over the past couple of weeks for "stuff I want." Feel free to take this as seriously--or not--as you wish.

The Lobink bookcase from Ashley Furniture

The Goodness Graceful dress from Modcloth

The Tall Pedestal Jewelry dish from Uncommon Goods

The Halloween Marquee light (in Bat) from At West End

The Stocksund chair (in Dark Grey) from Ikea

The Washable Suede jean jacket from Territory Ahead

The Blue Band Width stacking rings from Sundance Catalog

The Roderick sofa from Dania

The Women's Nantucket sweater (in Navy) from JPeterman

The Born Eryka sandal (in Marine) from Dodds Shoes

The Waystone Inn t-shirt (in Women's) from Tinker's Packs

The Shimmering Beads wrap bracelet (in Black) from J.Jill

The Leather skirt (in Vachetta) from White House Black Market

The Covington dresser (7 drawer) from Art Van Furniture

The Après Lux cardigan (in Heather Gray) from Eddie Bauer

The Heritage phone wallet book from Levenger

The Irish Linen shirt (in Deep Harbor) from J.Crew

The Legends Lancaster duvet cover & shams (in Graystone) from The Company Store

The Timberland Earthkeepers Savin Hill mid-boot (in Dark Brown Forty Leather) from Zappos

The Luxe Wool Double Breasted car coat from Lands' End

The Margot chair (in Midnight) from Crate and Barrel

The Flocking Longsleeve T-Shirt from Steelers.com

[the title quotation is Ferengi Rule of Acquisition #10]


If these delights thy mind may move --

Can't sleep. Worn out & keyed up. Thinking about a single rose that I once received...

Come live with me and be my love, 
And we will all the pleasures prove, 
That Valleys, groves, hills, and fields, 
Woods, or steepy mountain yields. 

And we will sit upon the Rocks, 
Seeing the Shepherds feed their flocks, 
By shallow Rivers to whose falls 
Melodious birds sing Madrigals. 

And I will make thee beds of Roses 
And a thousand fragrant posies, 
A cap of flowers, and a kirtle 
Embroidered all with leaves of Myrtle; 

A gown made of the finest wool 
Which from our pretty Lambs we pull; 
Fair lined slippers for the cold, 
With buckles of the purest gold; 

A belt of straw and Ivy buds, 
With Coral clasps and Amber studs: 
And if these pleasures may thee move, 
Come live with me, and be my love. 

The Shepherds’ Swains shall dance and sing 
For thy delight each May-morning: 
If these delights thy mind may move, 
Then live with me, and be my love.

[Christopher Marlowe, 'The Passionate Shepherd to His Love']


wherever you go for the rest of your life, it stays with you

  • Have you ever been to Legoland®?
    no, but I walked 'over' the Lego® Store at MOA earlier this summer, on the balcony above. It looked very, very fun--but also like it would have disturbed my Zen, big-time, to be there with all those other people.
  • Have you ever done something heroic?
    what does "heroic" even mean? I've never dashed into a burning building to save someone, or put pressure on a bleeding wound (except my own). I have called for emergency services a couple of times, and returned found objects, and lent some much-needed money. My 'heroism', though, if it is such, has been more on the order of making sure that the library was stocked with books about alcoholism, escaping and surviving abuse, healing after suicide, and that sort of thing. Making sure that people who need something have access to it.
  • Have you ever built a snowman?
    um, yeah. Once or twice.
  • Do you have any lucky items, objects or traditions?
    I carry a Miraculous Medal that was given to me by a former coworker. It does not have the same meaning for me that it did for him, but I feel better when I have it. There's also a certain pair of earrings that I always wear when I want to feel...confident.

    And I always grab a screw when I go over the railroad tracks. (Hey, get 'em whenever you can.)
  • Do you have any superstitions?
    besides the above? Hmm. I'm not fond of stepping on a crack in the sidewalk if it can be avoided. Does that count?
  • What's your favourite Movie quote?
    [again with the random capitalization!]

    "You go down to the bottom of the sea, where the water isn't even blue anymore, where the sky is only a memory, and you float there, in the silence. And you stay there, and you decide, that you'll die for them. Only then do they start coming out. They come, and they greet you, and they judge the love you have for them. If it's sincere, if it's pure, they'll be with you, and take you away forever." [from "Le grand bleu" (The Big Blue)]
  • Do you wear sunglasses indoors to look cool or stylish?
    nope. Running into things I can't see is never cool or stylish.
  • Are you a hat person?
    absolutely thought that said bat person. No, I'm not, but I absolutely love someone who is.
  • Do you prefer digital or rotary/analogue clocks?
    rotary clocks?!

    I think I have an analog clock around here somewhere, but I've adapted to preferring digital.
  • Have you ever been to a gym?
    nice. Yes--yes, I have.
  • Have you ever been wolf-whistled in public?
    only by someone I know, which makes me feel sad
  • Have you ever been approached by someone who knew you but you couldn't remember them for the life of you?
    it happens every couple of weeks lately. I keep running into people I knew back in school. They recognize me, but their faces have aged beyond my ability to recall them. (And everybody pretty much looks vaguely familiar here.)
  • What do you do to keep fit?
    I just stocked up on random exercise DVDs and a couple of pieces of equipment, using my "wellness benefit" at work. I don't mind going for walks and that sort of thing with other people, but for serious exercise I'm far more comfortable in my own home.
  • How often do you wash your ears?
    ...? Every time I wash my face and/or hair.
  • Could you go out with someone who had a child from a previous relationship?
    at this point in my life, it would be more difficult to find someone who's not got a child from a previous relationship. It would obviously require a lot of thought on everybody's part, because it's a big change for me, and who knows whether a parent would find me an acceptable influence on their offspring?
  • How much would it cost to buy your love?
    I think it's already spoken for, and at a remarkably reasonable price
  • What's the scariest thing you've ever done?
    ask me this question tomorrow and I'll have a different answer! For today, I'll say: leaving all I had and knew, to start a job in a field I don't understand.

[taken from here and divided; the title quotation is by Ernest Hemingway, from A Moveable Feast, and reads in its entirety--
“If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris as a young man, then wherever you go for the rest of your life, it stays with you, for Paris is a moveable feast.”]


we first make our habits, then our habits make us

I haven't done this in a long time. The idea is to type each letter of the alphabet, one at a time, into the address bar of your browser. Take the top URL and type it next to the appropriate letter in the list. This works best if you haven't cleared your cache/history in awhile. So here's mine from today. (I'm listing two for a few that have a very obvious first answer.)

A: [redirects] http://smile.amazon.com/ (at least once a day)
2nd choice: http://ardc.org/ (weird)
B: blogger.com (surprise!)
2nd choice: [my small bank in the former location]
C: http://curiousasacat.blogspot.com/ (the source!)
D: daily-chronicle.com (the old area newspaper)
E: en.wikipedia.org
2nd choice: http://www.ebay.com/ (very weird)
F: facebook.com
2nd choice: [only specific searches match]
G: gmail.com
2nd choice: https://www.goodreads.com/
H: www.healthpartners.com/public/health/preventive-guidelines/ (I never would have guessed that one!)
I: http://www.indeed.com/
J: [only specific searches match]
K: [only specific searches match]
L: linkedin.com
2nd choice:  http://listography.com/
M: [the public site for my employer]
N: nelsonstonebarn.com
O: [the access site for ebooks from my former source]
P: poets.org
Q: quotegarden.com (one of the sites that solves my daily dilemmas!)
R: realtor.com/
S: sitemeter.com (which is a habit I've really got to get out of, since their functioning is so limited as to be fairly well worthless. I just wish the archival data was extractable!)
2nd choice: [the access site for ebooks from my current source]
T: target.com (though I've never purchased anything from the site)
U: usps.com (change of address. Again.)
V: [only specific searches match]
W: [the hometown newspaper]
X: http://www.xcelenergy.com/ (more power!)
Y: yahoo.com
2nd choice: https://www.youtube.com/
Z: [only specific searches match]

What do I take from this? That my habits - on this computer, anyway - are pretty mild, and that I don't often stray from my faves.

[from the usual source; the title quotation is by John Dryden]


they only laughed

Once, I knew a fine song,
--It is true, believe me,--
It was all of birds,
And I held them in a basket;
When I opened the wicket,
Heavens! They all flew away.
I cried, “Come back, little thoughts!”
But they only laughed.
They flew on
Until they were as sand
Thrown between me and the sky.

[Stephen Crane, 'LXV' (Once, I knew a fine song)]


if monkeys have taught us anything, it's that you've got to learn how to love before you learn how to live

A utilitarian building with a fancy façade
These pictures reveal the water plant in my hometown. Its history is unsurprisingly somewhat muddy--pun intended--as this city is located on an island of sorts. Digging deep wells in an area as alternately rocky and soggy as this is a complex proposition. Read more about it here.

I got some rough news yesterday. My former brother-in-law has passed away. We had not seen each other in years, but I remained aware of his life, from a distance, since he and my sister were still in contact. In fact, they'd gone (with their respective subsequent spouses) on a couple of vacations together. It was a shock to find out that he'd died. He was a good guy, and will be missed.

I love the contrast between brick and stone
Hug your friends, and tell them that you love them. "Later," "next time," or "someday" may never come.

I'm getting things packed, a box or two each day. There's really not that much, right? I hardly unpacked at all when I moved in. How could there be this much?! I admit to a couple of panic attacks since I signed the contract. Will I fail? Will it take far longer and much more work than expected, to move? How long will it be until I'm fully unpacked? Will I ever find all the crap that I'm packing right now?

I spent a good chunk of the afternoon/evening trading song suggestions with a very sad Mumbler. That man can out-do anyone else on the planet with the perfect song for any occasion and with wallowing in depression. If it weren't so counterproductive, I would commend him for it directly. Instead, I attempted to steer his thought process into slightly more upbeat music. Poor lil fella.

The weather has been absolutely perfect for the last couple of days. Warmish during the day, but cool and clear at night. Heading into some rain tomorrow, which is lovely too. If it could kind of calm down and be mostly cloudy and about 65° on Monday, that would be perfect.

Rumor has it that the sixth book in 'The Song of Ice and Fire' will be released in less than a month. Ah, but wait! It's only a short story collection.


[the title quotation is by Harry Harlow]